Longtime readers of this blog may remember that my friend Ellen has been sending me a postcard from Vermont everyday for 12 years. This fall I made a trip to see her just before the momentous card number 5000 came. We talked about friendships, memories, communication, life, death…all the subjects you might imagine….and a few […]
This day after the election is not a happy day for me. This is a day when the message has been sent to me and to many of us, that the world we liked believing in, in fact, no longer exists..the values we hold close are not the culture’s values. I liked growing up and […]
Friday it will be 6 months since Roger Hull left us…the kind of anniversary I have learned the grief stricken notice. His birthday has passed, the big winter holidays have passed, I have achieved 80…which he really really wanted but wasn’t able to make. In some ways I’ve learned more in the last six months […]
By this time, at the tail end of winter, the weather seems to govern the emotions more…sleepy or depressed on a rainy day and then along comes a sunny day and…elation. Today is such a day and I walked at the Riverfront Walking in the sunlight seemed amazing. When I got home I noted there […]
There are so many topics we don’t address in relationships, and in our culture. At the end of Roger’s life we covered many of these (did you have a happy life, do you have regrets,) but, of course, we didn’t discuss the life I would have. Though we edged around it…me wondering/Roger: “I love to plan,” we […]
A friend invited me to “help” her make lemon curd (this was me, basically watching her) yesterday. It was almost as much a treat for the eye as for the tongue. A sunny morning and a sunny bowl of lemons. My job was zesting…made very easy with the use of her zester… Her great grandma immigrated […]
Roger loved his 1992 Volvo. We bought it used in 1997, and he was not in favor, but our other much older Volvo needed retirement. He quickly fell madly in love with this car and that lasted the next 26 years (he was loyal and steadfast, never tumbling to the joys of a new Toyota or Suburu). For […]
Three years of masking, staying in, making art in the dining room. Three years of absent friends, freezing chats on the front porch, accepting help with shopping, baking a lot of bread. The careening through traffic jams to the fairgrounds and swearing “Yes, we’re health care professionals “ (ha) for that first vaccine. Finished. We […]
It’s been soooo long since I’ve written I’m not sure I remember how to post. Our lives are as convoluted as ever but in different ways these days. As we dash into summer with a spate of perfect weather our next door neighbors (our grandkids) are keeping things wet and wild. Last weekend the parents […]
I first published this on my birthday in 2009, but I still think it tells my story…and now it comforts and delights me to see it and remember, especially this year as I reach a rather spectacular age: Today is my birthday and I’ve attained a certain age. I have plans, things to do, places […]
On The Way 